One of the major issues I have with the commercialization of Christmas, Yule, Kwanza and Hanukah, etc is that stuff takes the place of words to convey feelings. And, when we talk about human beings and all the things that come along with it, I firmly believe that the exchanging of “gifts” to symbolize how we feel about eachother has robbed us of our ability to really be together–to connect. Why are people so afraid to feel things?? Why are they afraid share themselves with one another in a way that really matters? In my opinon anyone who thinks the way to stay [...]

Okay… the idea of this blog was to say that I was supposed to do a lot this weekend. And, I did, but, it wasn’t the stuff I intended to do. I did the stuff I needed to do–NOTHING. And, it was awesome. Once upon a time, I would push myself beyond my physical limits, just because I had a real hard time slowing down and resting. And, now that’s no longer the case. On Saturdays my biz partner and I meet to do work on the lingerie store, but…some serious wires got crossed. I ended up at the library [...]

Peoples… well…the Americans anyway… I hope you had a blessed Thanksgiving… Mine truly rocked. It was very, very, very  low key. Just myself and my homie Gene chillin in the lilypad with great food, wine, movies and good company. Being the oddity that I am, I did a twist on the Thanksgiving Turkey. I added some hot italian sausage, pasta and sauce and called it Thanksgiving Lasanga. And, yes…there was cranberries–the dried variety in my fruit and nut mixed green salad. And, the wine flowed… love wine. And, instead of the requisite sweet potato pie, we had pecan–holla at the [...]

For all of you who haven’t been listening as I’ve lamented about the emotional unavailability of men in our society– call me crazy now… read this http://www.nytimes.com/2007/11/20/us/20brfs-YOUNGBOYSCHA_BRF.html Just in case you’re too lazy, it’s about a court case in Georgia about how an 11 yr old girl was KIDNAPPED  and RAPED by 8 and 9 year old boys!!!!! What? We aren’t in trouble as a society???? Irritable Male Syndrome isn’t real?!!!! Laugh now, as your sons are being taught to become animals before they even reach puberty! Look at your daughters and tell them that this is what they have [...]

Death in the Lie   It doesn’t get easier to handle, nor the weight easier to bare Shields up, feelings drown and illusions you don’t care.   It starts in a slight shade of white and skids downward to gray –Multiplied in each tomorrow, by the little one born today.   It sucks out the air from lungs, and makes darkness from the light –Making sunlight into rainstorms, all days into nights.   The first one was for protection from the hurt of someone else.  Hundreds now protect you from all life’s wonders to be felt.   Life is born [...]

Hey…did you know this about me? I’m totally contagious and infectious? It’s true. Seriously… I’m slowly taking over the world with my “sunny” disposition and my infectious laugh and smile and I brought friends–friends you don’t even know, but, they’re closer than you could imagine! If you’re reading this…I probably got you already! LOL I know…it’s almost criminal how I insinuate myself into people lives, to secretly ask them to find the joy, happiness and love in the small things, the big things, actually…all things. –Almost deceptive how it is that  I set the buddha-boobie trap  for anyone who chooses to see that [...]

–I usually break out right before it happens, right before the world as people think they know it crumbles right beneath them. I usually leave just before they fall. Whether it be jobs, or a situation with a family member, friend or guy. When I see it–the first grains of sand that hold the boulders together give way–I’m outta there. But, not this time. Everything presents us with a lesson, an opprotunity to learn something about ourselves, and for me, the lesson is watching it all fall down for someone and knowing three things: 1. Their fall isn’t my fall. 2. After offering help and exhausting all [...]

I’ve been pondering a lot of things recently…relationships of all sorts including my most important one; the one I have with myself. I dunno about this society anymore, I find myself wanting to move further and further away from it, until we make up our minds as to what kind of world we’re going to be and how we’re going to treat one another. It’s just impossible for me to accept that people don’t understand even exchanges, or the importance of fairness, and how treating people fairly has a huge impact on society as a whole. Increasingly, I’m watching people [...]

Okay…so, I guess the first time I attempted to write this didn’t agree with the powers that be. So…take two: “Roll tape and… ACTION!” “Allow  with force and vigor.” It has become my personal mantra since this past June, when I first understood the importance of feminine energies. I’m really masculine, for such a womanly-looking woman. So, I came to understand that while action is very important, so is holding potential. Once upon a time, I was a real control freak, and a severe type-A personality. And, well…I got tired of it. It’s futile, really, people will do what they choose, [...]

I think it’s important to talk only when you have something to say. And, that hasn’t been me for a little while. I told you–I’m a good listener. Lately, I’ve been listening to my life play itself out to me and I’m pretty grateful today for myself. I’m grateful because the choices I’ve made in my life have given me rewards that are constantly replenishing themselves. I’m grateful for my eldest nephew and my neice. If for some reason I never have children of my own, helping to raise them and witnessing them becoming the goregous people they are–I could [...]